and a Happy Home
A Woman for the Man
After creating man, what
did God say?
The Lord God said,
It is not good for the man to be alone.
I will make a helper suitable for him.
What therefore, did God
say He would make?
I will make a
helper for him. Verse 18.
Note Not a helpmeet
nor a helpmate, but two words a
helpmeet for him; that is, fit or suitable for
him. Mans companion, or help, was to
correspond to him. Each was to be suited to the
Could such a help be
found among the creatures that God had already
So the man gave names
to all the livestock, the birds of the air, and
all the beasts of the field. But, for Adam no
suitable helper was found Verse 20.
A Woman From The Man
What, therefore did God
So the Lord caused the
man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was
sleeping, he took one of the mans ribs and
closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord made
a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man,
and he brought her to the man. Verses
Note How beautiful,
in its fullness of meaning, is this simple but
suggestive story, at which skeptics sneer. God
did not make man after the order of the lower
animals, but in His own image.
Neither did He choose mans companion, or
help, from some other order of
beings, but made her from man of the same
substance. And He took this substance, not from
mans feet, that he would have the excuse to
degrade, enslave, or trample upon her; nor from
mans head, that woman might assume
authority over man; but from mans side,
from over his heart, the seat of his affections,
that woman might stand at his side as mans
equal, and, side by side with him, together,
under God, work out the purpose and destiny of
the race man the strong, the noble, the
dignified; woman, the weaker, the sympathetic,
the loving. How much more exalted and inspiring
in this view than the theory that man developed
from the lower order of animals.
What did Adam say as He
received his wife from God?
The man said, This
is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called woman, for she was
taken out of man. Verse 23.
The Two Become One
What great truth was then
For this reason a man
will leave his father and mother and be united to
his wife, and they will become one flesh.
In what words does Christ
recognize marriage as of God?
So they are no
longer two, but one. Therefore what God
has joined together, let man not separate.
Note Thus the
marriage institution ordained of God in Eden,
before man sinned. Like the Sabbath, it has come
down to us with the Edenic dews of divine
blessing still upon it. It was ordained not only
for the purpose of peopling the earth and
perpetuating the race, but to promote social
order and human happiness; to prevent irregular
affection; and through well-regulated families,
to transmit truth, purity, and holiness from age
to age. Around it cluster all the purest and
truest joys of home and the race. When the divine
origin of marriage is recognized, and the divine
principles controlling it are obeyed, marriage is
indeed a blessing; but when these are
disregarded, untold evils are sure to follow.
That which, rightly used, is of great blessing,
when abused becomes the greatest curse.
By what commands has God
guarded the marriage relation?
You shall not commit
adultery. You shall not covet your
Exodus 20:14; 17.
What New Testament
injunction is given respecting marriage?
Marriage should be
honored by all, and the marriage bed kept
pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the
sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4.
Note By many,
marriage is highly regarded is often made
even subject of jest. Its divine origins,
its great object, and its possibilities and
influences for good or evil are little thought
of, and hence it is often entered into with
little idea of its responsibilities or its sacred
obligations. The marriage relationship is
frequently used in the Scriptures as a symbol of
the relationship existing between God and His
people. (See Romans 7:1-4; 2 Corinthians 11:2;
Hosea 2:19, 20; Revelation 19:7.)
Marriage With Unbelievers
After the Fall, what sort
of marriages were introduced by men, which were
productive of great evil?
When men began to
increase on the earth and daughters were born to
them, the sons of God saw that the daughters
of men were beautiful, and they married any of
them they chose. Genesis 6:1,2.
Note The sons
of God, descending from Seth, married the
daughters of men, the descendants
from the idolatrous line of Cain. As a result the
barriers against evil were broken down, the whole
race was soon corrupted, violence filled the
earth, and the Flood followed.
What prohibition did God
give the chosen people against intermarrying with
the heathen nations about them, and why?
Do not intermarry
with them. Do not give your daughters to
their sons or take their daughters for your sons,
for they will turn your sons away from
following me to serve other gods, and the
Lords anger will burn against you and will
quickly destroy you.
with the ungodly was the mistake made by the
professed people of God before the Flood, and God
did not want Israel to repeat that folly.
What instruction is given
in the New Testament regarding partnership with
Do not be yoked
together with unbelievers. For what do
righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or
what fellowship can light have with darkness?
What harmony is there between Christ and Belial?
What does a believer have in common with an
unbeliever? What agreement is there between the
temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of
the living God. As God has said: I will
live with them and walk among them, and I will be
their God, and they will be my people. 2
Note - This instruction
forbids all compromising partnerships. Marriage
of believers with unbelievers has ever been a
snare by which Satan has captured many earnest
souls who thought they could win the unbelieving,
but in most cases have themselves drifted away
from the moorings of faith into doubt,
backsliding, and the loss of religion. It was one
of Israels constant dangers, against which
God warned them repeatedly. Give not your
daughters unto their sons, neither take their
daughters unto your sons, nor seek their peace
(by such compromise) or their wealth forever.
Ezra 9:12. (See also Exodus 34:14-16; Judges
14:1-3; Ezra 9 and 10; Nehemiah 13:23-27.) Even
Solomon fell before the influence of heathen
wives. Concerning him the inspired Word has left
this melancholy record: His wives turned
away his heart after other gods. 1 Kings
11:4. No Christian can marry an unbeliever
without running serious risk, and placing upon
himself upon the enemys ground. The
Scriptures do not advocate separation after the
union has been formed (see 1 Corinthians 7:2-16),
but good sense should teach us that faith can
best be maintained, and domestic happiness best
ensured, where both husband and wife are
believers, and of the same faith. Ministers and
parents, therefore, should warn the young against
all improper marriages.
What instruction did
Abraham give his servant Eliezer when sending him
to select a wife for his son Isaac?
He replied, The
Lord, before whom I have walked, will send his
angel with you and make your journey a success, so
that you can get a wife for my son from my own
clan and from my fathers family.
Note This passage
indicates that in early Bible times parents
generally had more to do in the selection of life
companions for their children than they commonly
have now. Young people, who are wise will seek
the advice and counsel of their parents, and
above all, will seek to know the will of God,
before entering upon this important relationship,
with its grave responsibilities and its momentous
Marriage and Divorce
For how long does marriage
bind the contracting parties?
For example, by law a
married woman is bound to her husband as long
as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she
is released from the law of marriage.
(See 1 Corinthians 7:39.)
What only does Christ
recognize as proper ground for dissolving the
I tell you that
anyone who divorces his wife, except
for marital unfaithfulness, and
marries another woman commits adultery. Matthew
Note Civil laws
recognize other reasons as justifiable
causes for separation, such as extreme cruelty,
habitual drunkenness, or other like gross
offenses; but only one offense, according to
Christ warrants the complete annulment of the
The Complete Home
Where and by whom were the
foundations of the home laid?
Now the Lord God
had planted a garden in the east, in Eden;
and there he put the man he had formed.
In making this home, what
besides man was needed?
The Lord God said,
It is not good for the man to be alone. I
will make a helper suitable for him.
After creating Adam and Eve,
what did God say to them?
God blessed them and
said, Be fruitful and increase in
number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule
over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air
and over every creature that moves on the ground.
To what are the wife and
children of the man who fears the Lord likened?
You will eat the fruit
of your labor; blessing and prosperity will be
yours. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine
within your house; your sons will be like olive
shoots around your table. Psalm
What are children declared to
Sons are a heritage
from the Lord, children a reward from him.
Psalm 127:3. Childrens children are a
crown to the aged, and parents are the pride
of their children.
Relationship of Husband and
How should the wife
relate herself to her husband?
Wives submit to
your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband
is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of
the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
And how should husbands regard
Husbands, love your
wives, just as Christ loved the church and
gave himself up for her to make her holy,
cleansing her by the washing with water through
the word, and to present her to himself as a
radiant church, without stain and wrinkle or any
other blemish, but holy and blameless. In the
same way, husbands ought to love their wives
as their own bodies. He who loves his wife
loves himself. After all, no one ever hated
his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just
as Christ does the church for we are
members of this body. For this reason a man will
leave his father and mother and be untied to his
wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is
a profound mystery but I am talking about
Christ and the church. However, each of you also
must love himself, and the wife must respect her
husband. Verses 25-33.
Against what are husbands
Husbands, love your
wives and do not be harsh with them.
Why should wives be in
subjection to their husbands?
Wives, in the same way
be submissive to your husband so that, if any
of them do not believe the word, they may be won
over without words by their behavior of their
1 Peter 3:1.
Why should husbands be
considerate of their wives?
Husbands, in the same
way be considerate as you live with your wives,
and treat them with respect as the weaker partner
and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of
life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Parents and Children
Why should children obey their
Children, obey your
parents, in the Lord, for this is right.
How should parents bring up
Fathers, do not
exasperate your children; instead bring them
up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Why should fathers not provoke
their children to anger?
Fathers, do not
embitter your children, or they will be
discouraged. Colossians 3:21.
By what means may the mother
bind the hearts of the loved ones at home
She speaks with
wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her
tongue. Proverbs 31:26.
How faithfully should
parents teach the precepts and commandments of
God to their children?
Impress them on
your children. Talk about them when you
sit at home and when you walk along the
road, when you lie down and when
you get up. Deuteronomy 6:7.
Note The home is the
childs first school, and it is here that
the foundation should be laid for a life of
service. Its principles are to be taught not
merely in theory. They are to shape the whole
What is the great secret of a
Better a meal of
vegetables where there is love than a
fattened calf with hatred.
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